Breaking Tradition: Women Proposing in Leap Year
In the 2010 rom-com Leap Year, Amy Adams’ character - disappointed that her boyfriend has not yet proposed, hops on a flight to Ireland to fulfil the old Irish tradition of a woman proposing to her partner on Leap Day. Of course, no film is ever that simple, and the presence of Matthew Goode’s character as her unwilling chauffeur complicates matters as despite his grumpy exterior, Anna develops feelings for him on their journey together. Anna is left with more than she bargained for, with not only one but two proposals to consider.
The film popularised an idea that has existed for centuries: that on a special day once every four years women can defy convention and propose to their partners. Whether referred to as Leap Day, Bachelor’s Day, or Ladies Privilege, the 29th of February stands as an exciting challenge to societal norms and traditions.
Although Leap Day itself originates back to 1582, when the new Gregorian calendar was created and needed an extra day every four years to balance out the year. The actual folklore surrounding Leap Day proposals stretches back thousands of years, when women were granted one day every four years to propose to their partner.
With 2024 bringing a Leap Year, of course, many societal attitudes have changed and women don’t actually need to wait for this day to propose. However, it remains a charming tradition nonetheless and we’re excited at Fenton to offer a giveaway to any woman who proposes to her man on this day!
Historical Perspectives
The tradition behind Leap Day proposals combines folklore with historical events, and while this custom has evolved over time, its origins are most famously traced back to a 5th-century nun, St Brigid of Kildare.
In ancient Irish history, it is believed that this tradition was brought about after St Brigid complained to St Patrick that women had to wait far too long for their men to propose, much like Amy Adams’ character. She pleaded with St Patrick to allow women to take the lead and as legend goes, St Patrick suggested that women may have this right once every seven years.
This, however, was still too long and undeterred, St Brigid negotiated the terms of the deal down to one day every four years - the Leap Day we know today.
Another custom comes from Scotland, with Queen Margret allegedly introducing a law in 1288 allowing women the freedom to propose every four years. These women were said to wear red petticoats to show their intentions and any man who refused them was penalised. Penalties for refusing a Leap Day proposal was a fine, ranging from a kiss on the cheek to a new silk gown.
In traditional English law, the 29th of February was never regarded as a legal day. As a result, the law at the time which prohibited women from proposing did not apply during a Leap Year. This loophole provided women with the exciting opportunity to challenge societal norms and propose themselves.
Leap Day proposals soon gained popularity, and in 19th century France, a new touch of romance was introduced to the tradition. On the 29th of February, women could propose to their man by leaving a burning red candle outside his window. If the man accepted, he would keep the candle lit and if not, he would extinguish it. This custom became known as ‘La Bougie’, simply translating as ‘The Candle’ and Leap Day candles are still sold every four years, especially for this purpose.
Get Inspired by Flora’s Story
Journalist and writer, Flora Gill dared to break with tradition by proposing to her boyfriend Adam.
After being together for 12 years, the couple had spoken about marriage, with Adam waiting for Flora to let him know when she was ready. As an arch-feminist, it occurred to Flora that she didn’t have to give him a nod, she could give him a ring.
With the help of the Fenton team, Flora designed a sparkling bespoke Toi et Moi ring for herself, made up of Tanzanite and Emerald, both her and Adam’s birthstones for that special touch. Flora wanted their rings to complement one another and so for Adam, she designed an 18K brushed Yellow Gold band, with their two birthstones embedded inside.
For the proposal itself, Flora decided to throw Adam a surprise engagement party on a boat in Little Venice. She knew he loved the location and having spent many a date night there, it was special to them both. She managed to keep the secret from her friends and family too and invited them over under the guise of a surprise birthday bash.
Flora popped the question to Adam, presenting him with his band in front of a beautiful canal boat, decorated with a ‘Will You Marry Me’ sign. They were greeted by their friends and family who delighted in the surprise too.
Flora’s heartwarming story of taking the reins and embarking on her proposal journey is inspiring, and as she very rightly says: ‘Why just let the men have this incredible moment’.
We couldn’t agree more!
Tips for Planning the Perfect Proposal
Choose a meaningful location
Select a location that is special to both you and your partner. Whether it's where you first met, had your first date, or a place you both love, choose a setting that adds sentimental value to your proposal.
Involve friends and family
Share the secret with friends and family, so they can make sure your surprise goes to plan.
Decide what you want to propose with
There are no rules to say you have to present your partner with anything when popping the question. However, if you did wish to give a gift, a classic watch, signet ring or smart pair of cufflinks are thoughtful and memorable options.
Alternatively, you may want to include the traditional element of a proposal by giving your partner a gorgeous band. You’ll have fun designing it yourself and can even include personal elements such as hidden birthstone gemstones and a sweet engraving.
Design your ring
Once you’ve proposed you can then share the experience of finding your dream engagement ring together. Lots of couples love to choose their ring together as it’s a romantic way to celebrate this milestone whilst reducing the pressure on one partner to make the final decision.
Leap Year Giveaway
Any woman who proposes with a Fenton band and shares a photo we can feature on our socials will receive a complimentary pair of Solar Diamond or Gemstone Classic Huggie Hoop earrings as a heartfelt congratulations on your successful acceptance. Capture the moment and let Fenton be a part of your extraordinary love story!
Get your Fenton appointment booked in to experience our luxurious showroom. With a glass of fizz and our expert concierge on hand, you’ll love finding the perfect band for your partner.
Terms & Conditions: The giveaway runs until 29th February 2024, offering one pair of Classic Huggies in any gemstone or Solar Diamond as the prize. The prize is non-refundable and non-exchangeable. Participants must permit the use of their proposal pictures featuring the Fenton band across Fenton’s social media platforms for promotional purposes. Eligible women who propose with a Fenton band during the giveaway period. Winners will be notified via the provided contact information, and verification of the authenticity of the proposal and Fenton band usage is required. Fenton may amend the terms and conditions or cancel the giveaway at its discretion. By participating, entrants agree to adhere to these terms and conditions.
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